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Too Soon to Say Good-bye

Chad on his Harley motorcycle

Chad on his Harley motorcycle

These past six weeks have been difficult ones for my family.  On September 16th, my thirty-six year old nephew died from injuries sustained in a motorcycle accident, plunging our family into sadness like we’ve never known before.

Chad leaves behind his parents, a nine-year-old daughter, a six-year-old son, a sister, two nieces, and a lot of other family members and friends who will never stop missing him.  Our family has experienced loss before, but this time, it’s different.  And it’s different because Chad was what we all consider to be too young to die.  It was just too soon to say good-bye.

I know that life doesn’t come with guarantees, and young people die everyday.  Just the same, I fully expected Chad to be around at least another thirty-six years.  I wanted thirty-six more years of his goofy grins, his funny stories, his presence in our lives and at our family functions.
Chad with his mom and his kids

We all expected Chad to be here to enjoy hunting season with his father and his son, to take one more beach vacation with the whole family in tow, to teach his kids to drive, to help his sister choose his parents’ nursing home, and to walk his daughter down the aisle.  And so we grieve.  We grieve for missed opportunities.  We cry for all those things that might have been, but now will never be.

Our only comfort is in knowing that it is God in his sovereign wisdom who numbers our days. It is God who gave us thirty-six years to know Chad and to love him.  Why only thirty-six years?  I don’t know.  But I know the One who knows the reason why, and I trust Him.

These past six weeks have been dark ones, especially for Chad’s immediate family.  I don’t exactly know what it must be like to pick up the pieces of your life after the death of your son, your brother, or your daddy.  It’s heartbreaking to see their pain and to know that my own pain is just a shadow of theirs.

I’d like to tell Chad that I was proud of him.  He was a hard worker, a great guy, an awesome dad!  It’s too soon to say good-bye, so I’ll just say, “See you later!”Good-bye Chad


11 thoughts on “Too Soon to Say Good-bye

  1. Beautiful Elaine. Well said. Miss you Chad!

  2. Elaine my condolences to you entire family! I will say prayer for some sort of comfort for you all!
    God’s blessings

    1. Thank you so much, Gwen. God is seeing us through this.

  3. Closing a grief to soon to forget, but the grave can be the best shelter against the storms of destiny!

  4. What a loving tribute Elaine.i pray that you each find comfort in God’s grace.

    1. Thank you, Bonnie.

  5. We have been thinking of you and your family, Grandma, and sending all the love and prayers we can. It’s hard to understand why things like this happen, but you have made a lovely tribute to Chad and point out some very important facts about your family who are grieving: that they are together in this. Still sending all our love!

    1. Thank you so much, Genna.

  6. Elaine, I too want send my love and care. Please relay this to Chad’s immediate family. Your tribute was beautiful.

    1. Thank you, Chris. I will be sure to tell my sister and her family.

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